Getting to know other people is a typical activity in our daily lives. Even if you're good with people，there are likely times when you're stuck for something more to say and start wondering what topic to bring up next. 【小题1】

Talk about the other person.

The biggest secret to being a good conversationalist is simply allowing the other people to talk about themselves. Why? 【小题2】

Ask about work.

This one can be a little tricky because the conversation could end up sounding like a job interview. Still, if you can handle it carefully and keep it short and sweet, it can lead to an interesting discussion.

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This is where it starts to get more personal. It’s up to you to carry on the conversation using these questions in a proper way. Do you play or follow any sports? What do you like to read? What kind of music do you like?

Ask about their travels.

Ask the person where they’ve been. Even if they have never left their hometown, they will likely be happy to talk about where they want to go. If you had a chance to move to any other country, which one would it be and why? 【小题4】 How did you like it?

Know what to avoid.

You know the old rule: never talk about religion, politics, money, family problems, or women’s age with people you don’t know well. 【小题5】 So you should stay extremely clear.

   Have you ever had the experience of talking to someone and you think they are lying? Well, you are not alone. We’ve all had that feeling. But did you know that there are several things you can look for to see if you are being lied to?

Sometimes you can tell if a person is lying by observing what they do with their body. When people are lying they tend not to move their arms, hands or legs very far from their body. They don’t want to take up very much space because they don t want to be noticed. Sometimes a person who is lying will not look you in the eyes. Other times people who lie try to look at you in a strong way because they want to convince you they are telling the trugh.

Liars also use deflection. For example, if you ask a liar the question “Did you steal Fatima’s bag?” they may answer with something like “Fatima is my friend. Why would I do that?” In this situation the person is telling the truth, but they are also not answering the question. They are trying to deflect your attention. Liars may also give too many details. They may try to over-explain things. They do this because they want to convince you of what they are saying.

Often when a person is lying, they do not want to continue talking about their lie. If you think someone is lying, quickly change the subject. If the person is lying, they will spear more comfortable because they are not talking about their lie any longer. A little later, change the subject back to what you were talking about before. If the person seems uncomfortable again, they may be lying.

It’s very hard for a liar to avoid filling silence created by you. He or she wants you to believe the lies being woven; silence gives no feedback on whether or not you’ve bought the story. If you’re a good listener, you’ll already be avoiding interruptions, which in itself is a great technique to let the story unfold.

Just because a person is showing these behaviors, it does not mean they are lying. They might be shy or nervous. But, if you think someone is lying, you might want to use some of these techniques. Hopefully, you won’t need to very often.

   Many people want to achieve success in life, but it's easier said than done because there are so many distractions(分散注意力的事). Then how to be successful? 【小题1】

Imagine becoming successful.

Einstein said imagination is more important than knowledge. The more carefully you imagine your success, the easier it will be for the rest of yourself to follow through. 【小题2】 What is your success like? Taste the feeling of your success, and use it as motivation(动机)to encourage yourself.

Find the purpose of your life.

Find out the things you love to do, and use this information to find the purpose of your life. Finding what you love to do will give you motivation along the way. 【小题3】 Pretty difficult, right? Now imagine the opportunity to join in a chess game. It's much easier to achieve your goal if that is what you enjoy.

Surround yourself with people who are successful.

When you're surrounded with people who are highly driven, it's encouraging. 【小题4】 Model some of your ways around theirs, if possible. Knowledge is as free as it is powerful.

Collect as much information as you can.

Listen. Study. Understand. Learn. Repeat. Humans are amazing creatures because we can look at the world, make intellectual(理智的)connections,and use those connections to make our lives better. This is what information allows us to do. 【小题5】 You never know when your flash of wisdom will come!