Holding on regret is like dragging (拖) the weight of the past with us everywhere we go. It consumes our _________, leaving less available for life in the present _________ we are constantly feeding an old issue. This attachment can _________illness the same way watering a dead plant creates decay (腐烂).We know that _________ new and beautiful can grow in its place if we only prepare the soil and plant the right seeds. We also know that we create our lives from our _________, so focusing on the past may actually recreate a situation in our lives where we are _________ to make the choice again and again. We can choose to move _________right now by applying what we have learned to the present and perhaps even sharing with others, _________ the energy into something that is constructive and creative for ourselves and others.

Forgiveness can heal _________. In meditation (冥想), we can ____________discussing the issue with the self of our past and ____________our forgiveness for the choice. ____________, we can ask for ourselves' forgiveness for keeping them locked in that space of judgment for so long. We may also want to ask for ____________from anyone else who may have been ____________and perhaps offer our forgiveness. By replaying the event in our ____________, we can choose a new ending using all that we now know. Imagine that you have actually gone back into the ____________ and made this change, and then say goodbye to it. ____________your former self with a hug and bring the forgiveness and love back with you to the present. Since we are usually hard on ourselves, it is amazing how ____________ healing it can be to offer ourselves love.

Keeping our minds and our energy fully in the present allows us to fuel our ____________ and emotional well-being today. This action frees our energy to create the dreams we dream for the future. By ____________responsibility and action in the present, we can let go of the past.

   Light therapy is not the only treatment for jet lag（时差反应）.There are other things you can do to feel less tired the next time you travel. Sleep experts at the medical website WebMD have these suggestions on how to fight jet lag.

●【小题1】

Several days before you travel, start moving your bedtime and hours for meals closer to the time you plan to eat and sleep on your trip.

●Start making small changes while in flight

Change your watch when you get on the airplane. This is playing a trick on your mind. But it can help you to start thinking of the time at the other end of the flight. Try to sleep on the plane if it is nighttime in the place where you are going.【小题2】.

● Arrive early

If you are traveling for work or for a personal reason, try to arrive a few days early, if possible. 【小题3】.

●Drink water

Drink lots of water before, during, and after your flight.【小题4】. Alcohol and coffee can have a bad effect on your sleep.

● Move around

【小题5】. But after you land, avoid heavy exercise near bedtime. Exercise near bedtime can delay sleep, whether on an overseas trip or at home.

If you travel, what are other tips you use to make it more enjoyable?

   Over the years, I've received a lot of advice from friends and family, trained professionals and books on how to get along with others and build strong relationships. Most of it is insightful（有见地的） and effective but when I'm caught up in the moment, I find it hard to apply what I've learned. This is especially true when it involves a multi-step process.

After analyzing many methods and experimenting in my own interactions（交流）, I've found one simple guideline that has helped me strengthen every one of my interpersonal relationships. This simple easy-to-remember tip is: Make the other person feel important.

No one likes to feel small and most conflicts（冲突）occur when you make others feel unimportant whether you plan to or not. The key to getting along with almost anyone is to avoid actions that diminish others and replace them with actions that build up others. Actually,you can strengthen your relationships with many actions.

When you interact with someone, give him your undivided attention. Don't look around to see what else is going on or check your phone or watch. Take time to listen and respond  accordingly to show  you're engaged. Make the other person feel like he is the most important person you’re meeting with.

Nothing will make someone light up more brightly than showing genuine interest in him. Be curious and ask specific questions based on what you hear. The more questions you ask, the better the interaction will go but keep in mind that you must be sincere. If you try to fake it, people can tell.

When it is possible,show that you consider the other person remarkable. Find opportunities to speak highly of this person to others as often as you honestly can. One trap to avoid is making others feel  more important by putting yourself down. This is never helpful so it's important that you lift others up in a way that respects everyone including you.

   Whether you're meeting a customer for the first time or interviewing potential new employees, making a great first impression is important.

Research suggests that fairly _______ first impressions are made as soon as within one-tenth of a second of meeting someone. Then how do you _______ you come across well?Apart from the _______ practice - dress smartly, shake hands firmly, make eye contact, you can do _______ to make sure you make a good first impression.

Making a good first impression will be a lot _______ if you understand what exactly a good first impression involves. Edwards, CEO of Science of People,suggests becoming _______ of how you want to be sensed before the meeting. “ _______ you get ready, think about what kind of people you want to _______ and what kind of interactions you want to have. ”

Add value to the _______ . If you don't have anything interesting to say, perhaps you can ________ not to say anything. Sally, the author of How The World Sees You, stresses why you need to ________ value to the conversation. ” You want your listeners to ________ the conversation feeling good about their investment（投入）of time and ________ . What can you ________ to the discussion? For example, has your  team recently learned a new ________ to connect via a conference call,or attract new customers? If you're not adding value ,you're just ________ time. ”

Forget about your personal schedule. It's going to be difficult to make a good impression if you're ________ in some personal schedule. Andrew, Director of Business Development, ________ dropping your personal schedule and ________ , being friendly and honest with the people who may be able to help  each other. Generosity is an attractive ________ and it's something special that people will remember about you.

   Proper pressure can be a good thing: It can push you toward accomplishing tasks. 【小题1】. But sometimes the stress can be too much. Psychologist Travis explains that there is a best level of stress. With less than that, you may lack interest or motivation. 【小题2】 If you can reduce the stress and stay calm, you’ll have a better chance of succeeding.

Breathe out

Psychotherapist Tom suggests an effective yet simple relaxation technique: Slowly expel (排出) all the air from your lungs until there is nothing left and then count to 3 before taking the next breath normally. 【小题3】. The act of letting go of all the air lowers your shoulders and relaxes your muscles. When you are physically more relaxed, you will function better under pressure.

Keep healthy daily habits

Ensure that you are eating healthy foods. 【小题4】. Proper diet and rest may be all you need to reset your biological stress reactions to more manageable levels. In addition, regular exercise has been shown to reduce stress.

【小题5】

Regardless of how much pressure the other person is applying, or how much stress you feel, avoid reacting before you have had a chance to calmly consider what you think about the issue. Leave the room and go for a walk, make some coffee or sit alone in a quiet spot to allow yourself to decide what is the best for you.