Why you shouldn't punish your kids for lying

Getting your children to stop lying is challenging. There are many influences（TV，movies and video games）in which lies are common. Children see parents lie to others，if only to be polite. Most parents add to that with tales about the lives and activities of Santa Claus or the tooth fairy. 【小题1】

The most common reactions to children who lie are explaining why it is wrong and punishments. 【小题2】 Here are three better tools supported by research to use instead.

Give praise: You could ask your child to say something that happened at school that is true. When your child obeys, praise him enthusiastically. Be specific. 【小题3】 and give your child a hug or a high five. Aim for one or two interactions（互动）like this a day. If you happen to "catch" your child in a lie，say something like，“That is not true and could get you in trouble outside of the home.”

Act as a model: Explicitly（明确地）tell the truth. This could be about something that happened when you were a child or something that happened during the day. It need not be dramatic. Another option is to play a game at dinner. Each person tells one thing that was true that day. Again，give a little praise to the child who normally lies if she plays along.

Decrease punishments and moralizing（说教）：They are unlikely to change behavior or develop the conduct you want. 【小题4】 Rather，use very mild punishments（light scolding，short loss of privileges，a brief timeout）. More severe punishments（shouting，taking away something for a week，hitting）are not more effective in actually changing the frequency of lying.

【小题5】 Usually they can be dropped by then. It is unlikely that lying will be completely removed，but with the right encouragement，it can be dramatically lessened.

   When you step into a new environment, you must have a strong wish to fit in. Fitting in means making more friends, having more influence on others and getting more chances to live a happier life. 【小题1】

Be confident. Confidence attracts most people. Everyone is special and unique in this world. Spend some time thinking about your strong points. 【小题2】 And you won’t have much difficulty fitting in.

Be kind to everyone. Kindness is the bridge to your own happiness. When people notice your kindness, they will return it one day. Always give more than you receive, and think more of others than of yourself. 【小题3】

【小题4】Various activities like playing football can help you to be known by others. You may add more friends to your circle. At the same time, you’ll be amazed to see how much they like you. Instead of wasting time being alone, go out to dance and sing together with others to develop friendships.

Do smile at everyone every day. It makes both you and others feel happy. 【小题5】 Humour catches others’ attention as well. People will like you for making them live happily.

If you follow what is mentioned above, you will be accepted by people around you. As a result, you will fit in very well and enjoy your new life.

   Many people want to achieve success in life, but it's easier said than done because there are so many distractions(分散注意力的事). Then how to be successful? 【小题1】

Imagine becoming successful.

Einstein said imagination is more important than knowledge. The more carefully you imagine your success, the easier it will be for the rest of yourself to follow through. 【小题2】 What is your success like? Taste the feeling of your success, and use it as motivation(动机)to encourage yourself.

Find the purpose of your life.

Find out the things you love to do, and use this information to find the purpose of your life. Finding what you love to do will give you motivation along the way. 【小题3】 Pretty difficult, right? Now imagine the opportunity to join in a chess game. It's much easier to achieve your goal if that is what you enjoy.

Surround yourself with people who are successful.

When you're surrounded with people who are highly driven, it's encouraging. 【小题4】 Model some of your ways around theirs, if possible. Knowledge is as free as it is powerful.

Collect as much information as you can.

Listen. Study. Understand. Learn. Repeat. Humans are amazing creatures because we can look at the world, make intellectual(理智的)connections,and use those connections to make our lives better. This is what information allows us to do. 【小题5】 You never know when your flash of wisdom will come!

Five Facts About Goal Setting

As we all know，goal setting plays an important role in realizing our dreams. However，we don't know exactly how to deal with it. The following tips on goal setting can help make it easier to set and reach goals：【小题1】

When it comes to making a change，the people who succeed are those who set realistic and specific（具体的）goals. "I'm going to recycle all my plastic bottles，soda cans，and magazines" is a much more realizable goal than "I'm going to do more for the environment". And that makes it easier to stick with.

It takes time for a change to become a stable habit.

It will probably take a couple of months before any changes become a regular part of your life. 【小题2】That's because your brain needs time to get used to the idea that this new thing you're doing is a part of your regular routine.

Repeating a goal makes it stick in your mind.

Say your goal out loud each morning to remind yourself of what you want and what you're working for. 【小题3】Every time you remind yourself of your goal，you're training your brain to make it happen.

Pleasing other people doesn't work.

【小题4】You have to do it because you want it，not because a girlfriend，boyfriend，coach，parent，or someone else wants you to.It will be harder to stay on track and motivated if you're doing something out of duty to another person.

Roadblocks don't mean failure.

Mistakes are actually parts of the learning process as you retrain your brain into a new way of thinking. 【小题5】But that's OK—it's normal to mess up or give up a few times when you are trying to make a change. So remember that everyone slips up（疏忽）and don't beat yourself up about it. Just remind yourself to get back on track.