How did your friendships begin?【小题1】. Asking about the homework in class or complaining about your tired legs after playing in a soccer game. Or you find your best pal by accident. The following is a four-step guide to small talk.

1. 【小题2】

Begin by talking about the surroundings, such as the weather outside or the room you are in.  The purpose is to show the other person that you are willing to make a conversation.

2. Looking for topics

At this point, you and your conversation partner need to find common ground.  This is a good time to ask questions or to refer back to things you've said or heard earlier. 【小题3】. The other person is probably just thinking of something to say at this very moment.

3. Expanding the topic

The goal is to keep the conversation going.  At every stage, you should be careful not to talk too much.  But don't let the other person dominate （支配）the conversation either. 【小题4】.

4. Ending politely

When ending a conversation, let the person know you'll be leaving soon, express your appreciation and set the stage for a future conversation.  For example, you could say, "I really must be going soon, but I had a great time chatting with you. 【小题5】.  Here's my phone number.  Call or text me if you know of any other movies you think I might enjoy. "

   Top 3 Self-Discipline Techniques

Self-Discipline is the key to leading a healthier, happier and more successful life. 【小题1】 We have shared some self-discipline techniques below. Follow these self-discipline techniques to start living a better life.

1.Start small

The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step, as the proverb goes. 【小题2】 Instead,  stamina(耐力) is built up by doing a little more than the previous day’s target.

The same goes for discipline. Start by trying to carry out self-discipline techniques little by little every day for big results. Increase your goals over time.

2.【小题3】

Staying self-disciplined requires motivation. It can be hard to stay motivated if you feel like you haven’t made any progress so far. Tracking progress makes you aware of how much you’ve done and encourage you to keep going.

3.Exercise your willpower

【小题4】Some days, sticking to the task is going to be difficult but by reminding yourself of the end in mind and how much the goal means to you, you will be able to ignore temporary temptations for long term gain.

The above-mentioned self-discipline techniques have been proven to be extremely effective.

【小题5】 And it is the key to living a happy and fulfilling life.

Keep Calm During the Hard Times

When life gets hard, sometimes it's not easy to control yourself and not to sink deep into the bad feelings. Have you ever wondered how some people can be so calm during the hard times？【小题1】 Here are four things you can do to get through hard times.

Cry if you need to-for a while. Some people like to control themselves.【小题2】 If you do control them, it's like holding a ball under the water. You can do it for a while, but it will finally come back to the surface. So have a good cry once in a while to help you think more clearly.【小题3】 Lost in the bad emotions, we won't change anything. Let's say you just lost your job. Maybe it is a shock. After crying, then you should make the decision to put your calm hat on. Start to find new jobs. Then do something.

Ask for help. Unluckily, a lot of people think that asking for help is a sign of weakness. It's not!【小题4】 Nowhere! Having other people support you will make you feel like you have more power than before.

Believe that things will get better. If you don't believe that things will change, then they won't. I always love Henry Ford's words, "Whether you think you can or you think you can't-you are right." If you think things will get better, then they finally will. If you think they won't, then they won't.【小题5】

Stay calm when life gets hard. If you practice these steps on a regular basis, sooner or later it will become second nature to you.

   "Keeping the body in good health is a duty，otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear." This saying by Buddha is a life motto of highly healthy people. 【小题1】The following four habits will significantly improve your health.

They are organized and disciplined.

If you want to be healthy，you should try to become organized. 【小题2】It will help you succeed in everything and do things on time.

【小题3】

In our busy lives，it's very easy to ignore the healthy habits that keep us feeling great and eating right. Highly healthy people usually have a habit to prioritize（优先考虑）their health. They are particular about their nutrition. They always avoid fast food because they find it very harmful.

They have an exercise schedule.

Exercise and other physical activities are not only good for you，but they are also a fun way to spend time. 【小题4】That's why they set aside time for exercise in the mornings or evenings. Due to the high level of self-organization，they easily stick to the exercise schedule. They think that active lifestyle and regular sports will help them live longer.

They get enough sleep.

Sleep plays an important role in immune（有免疫力）function，memory，learning and other important functions. 【小题5】 It is very important to wake up and go to sleep at the same time，because your body works according to a certain rule.

   Holding on regret is like dragging (拖) the weight of the past with us everywhere we go. It consumes our _________, leaving less available for life in the present _________ we are constantly feeding an old issue. This attachment can _________illness the same way watering a dead plant creates decay (腐烂).We know that _________ new and beautiful can grow in its place if we only prepare the soil and plant the right seeds. We also know that we create our lives from our _________, so focusing on the past may actually recreate a situation in our lives where we are _________ to make the choice again and again. We can choose to move _________right now by applying what we have learned to the present and perhaps even sharing with others, _________ the energy into something that is constructive and creative for ourselves and others.

Forgiveness can heal _________. In meditation (冥想), we can ____________discussing the issue with the self of our past and ____________our forgiveness for the choice. ____________, we can ask for ourselves' forgiveness for keeping them locked in that space of judgment for so long. We may also want to ask for ____________from anyone else who may have been ____________and perhaps offer our forgiveness. By replaying the event in our ____________, we can choose a new ending using all that we now know. Imagine that you have actually gone back into the ____________ and made this change, and then say goodbye to it. ____________your former self with a hug and bring the forgiveness and love back with you to the present. Since we are usually hard on ourselves, it is amazing how ____________ healing it can be to offer ourselves love.

Keeping our minds and our energy fully in the present allows us to fuel our ____________ and emotional well-being today. This action frees our energy to create the dreams we dream for the future. By ____________responsibility and action in the present, we can let go of the past.