题干
Getting your children to stop lying is challenging. There are many influences(TV programmes, movies, video games and some books) in which lies are common. Children see parents lie to others, if only to be polite. Most parents add to that with tales about the lives and activities of Santa Claus.
Parents do this out of love, but for some children,lying can become a problem. The most common reactions to children who lie are explaining why it is wrong and giving them punishment. But as ways of changing behavior, these are ineffective.
However, what counts is to praise. You could ask your child to say something that happened at school and that is true. It is not important what that is. This is about practice. When your child obeys, praise him enthusiastically. Be specific like"That was great! You told me what happened just like I asked. Wow!"and give your child a hug or a high five. If your child says something true in the course of his or her day, praise that behavior too. Aim for one or two interactions like this a day. If you happen to "catch"your child in a lie, say something like "That is not true and could get you in trouble; it is better to say the truth."
Besides, you should set a good example for your kids and tell the truth directly. This could be about something that happened when you were a child or something that happened during the day. It need not be dramatic. Another option is to play a game at dinner. Each person tells one thing that was true that day. Again, give a little praise to the child who normally lies if he plays along.
In most cases, children are unlikely to change behavior or develop the conduct you want. That does not mean ignoring, lying or letting it go. Rather, use very mild punishments(light scolding, short loss of privilege(特权) or brief time out). More severe or long-lasting punishments(shouting, taking away something for a week, hitting) are not more effective in actually changing the frequency of lying.
Try these procedures for two to three weeks and see where you are. Usually the frequency of lying can be dropped by then. It is unlikely that lying will be completely removed, but with the right encouragement, it can be dramatically lessened.
【小题1】Which punishment is quite ineffective?
【小题2】What can we conclude from the passage?
【小题3】Which of the following could serve as the best title?
Parents do this out of love, but for some children,lying can become a problem. The most common reactions to children who lie are explaining why it is wrong and giving them punishment. But as ways of changing behavior, these are ineffective.
However, what counts is to praise. You could ask your child to say something that happened at school and that is true. It is not important what that is. This is about practice. When your child obeys, praise him enthusiastically. Be specific like"That was great! You told me what happened just like I asked. Wow!"and give your child a hug or a high five. If your child says something true in the course of his or her day, praise that behavior too. Aim for one or two interactions like this a day. If you happen to "catch"your child in a lie, say something like "That is not true and could get you in trouble; it is better to say the truth."
Besides, you should set a good example for your kids and tell the truth directly. This could be about something that happened when you were a child or something that happened during the day. It need not be dramatic. Another option is to play a game at dinner. Each person tells one thing that was true that day. Again, give a little praise to the child who normally lies if he plays along.
In most cases, children are unlikely to change behavior or develop the conduct you want. That does not mean ignoring, lying or letting it go. Rather, use very mild punishments(light scolding, short loss of privilege(特权) or brief time out). More severe or long-lasting punishments(shouting, taking away something for a week, hitting) are not more effective in actually changing the frequency of lying.
Try these procedures for two to three weeks and see where you are. Usually the frequency of lying can be dropped by then. It is unlikely that lying will be completely removed, but with the right encouragement, it can be dramatically lessened.
【小题1】Which punishment is quite ineffective?
| A．Brief time out. |
| B．Light scolding. |
| C．Short loss of privilege. |
| D．Taking away something for a week. |
| A．Parents can tell lies sometimes. |
| B．Lying will disappear thoroughly. |
| C．Punishments cannot change behavior. |
| D．Praising parents a lot is beneficial. |
| A．Is Lying a Problem? |
| B．Can Kids Stop Lying? |
| C．What Can You Do When Kids Tell Lies? |
| D．How Can You Punish Your Kids for Lying? |
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