After the age of 25, the number of friendships we maintain begins to fall. 【小题1】
Learn to identify opportunities.
“We let chances to make friends pass us by every day,” says Kate Leaver in her book The Friendship Cure. 【小题2】“Instead of forcing a little small talk with your kind neighbours,” she says, “ask them in for a cuppa and get to know them. ”
【小题3】
Joining a group, club or class is an effective way to meet people. “Teaming up for a shared activity,project or goal is an experience that can promote bonding and closer connections,” says therapist Miriam Kirmayer. Pursue a challenge or skill you are interested in, because then you will have a good time and feel more at ease in starting a conversation.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable(脆弱的).
【小题4】 What if your offers are rejected? Leaver and Kirmayer say that a degree of vulnerability is needed in trying to start friendships. Keeping to yourself isn’t going to help you. Sharing recommendations or letting others in on plans, says Kirmayer, is a simple way to share, which will help build closeness and trust.
Don't put too much pressure on it.
As we age, our friendships change. According to a 2016 study, we hit our peak number of friendships at the age of 25. 【小题5】 clinical psychologist Linda Blair advises not putting too much pressure on any new connections and not expecting too much from one person.
A.Follow your interests. |
B.Ask questions and listen. |
C.It can be scary to try to make friends. |
D.When people are trying to make friends as an adult. |
E.As you are calculating your number of friendships. |
F.But forming new, lasting connections can be simple. |
G.She advises having the courage to take small steps when opportunities arise. |