Over the years, I've received a lot of advice from friends and family, trained professionals and books on how to get along with others and build strong relationships. Most of it is insightful(有见地的) and effective but when I'm caught up in the moment, I find it hard to apply what I've learned. This is especially true when it involves a multi-step process.
After analyzing many methods and experimenting in my own interactions(交流), I've found one simple guideline that has helped me strengthen every one of my interpersonal relationships. This simple easy-to-remember tip is: Make the other person feel important.
No one likes to feel small and most conflicts(冲突)occur when you make others feel unimportant whether you plan to or not. The key to getting along with almost anyone is to avoid actions that diminish others and replace them with actions that build up others. Actually,you can strengthen your relationships with many actions.
When you interact with someone, give him your undivided attention. Don't look around to see what else is going on or check your phone or watch. Take time to listen and respond accordingly to show you're engaged. Make the other person feel like he is the most important person you’re meeting with.
Nothing will make someone light up more brightly than showing genuine interest in him. Be curious and ask specific questions based on what you hear. The more questions you ask, the better the interaction will go but keep in mind that you must be sincere. If you try to fake it, people can tell.
When it is possible,show that you consider the other person remarkable. Find opportunities to speak highly of this person to others as often as you honestly can. One trap to avoid is making others feel more important by putting yourself down. This is never helpful so it's important that you lift others up in a way that respects everyone including you.
【小题1】What does the underlined word“diminish” in Paragraph 3 probably mean?A.Take charge of. | B.Speak highly of. | C.Think poorly of. | D.Make use of. |
A.Being responsive. | B.Paying attention fully. |
C.Getting genuinely curious. | D.Pretending to be interested. |
A.Being too modest. | B.Being sharply critical. |
C.Playing tricks on others. | D.Looking down upon others. |
A.To offer some advice on getting along with others. |
B.To criticize the professional books. |
C.To thank his friends for their advice. |
D.To improve his personal relationships. |