I’m sorry to trouble you, but _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Thank you!

Yours,

Li Ming

I'm sorry to hear that you feel lonely in the new school, because you find hard to make friends. Now, I'd like to offering you some advice.

Yours,

Li Hua

   How did your friendships begin?【小题1】. Asking about the homework in class or complaining about your tired legs after playing in a soccer game. Or you find your best pal by accident. The following is a four-step guide to small talk.

1. 【小题2】

Begin by talking about the surroundings, such as the weather outside or the room you are in.  The purpose is to show the other person that you are willing to make a conversation.

2. Looking for topics

At this point, you and your conversation partner need to find common ground.  This is a good time to ask questions or to refer back to things you've said or heard earlier. 【小题3】. The other person is probably just thinking of something to say at this very moment.

3. Expanding the topic

The goal is to keep the conversation going.  At every stage, you should be careful not to talk too much.  But don't let the other person dominate （支配）the conversation either. 【小题4】.

4. Ending politely

When ending a conversation, let the person know you'll be leaving soon, express your appreciation and set the stage for a future conversation.  For example, you could say, "I really must be going soon, but I had a great time chatting with you. 【小题5】.  Here's my phone number.  Call or text me if you know of any other movies you think I might enjoy. "

   Proper pressure can be a good thing: It can push you toward accomplishing tasks. 【小题1】. But sometimes the stress can be too much. Psychologist Travis explains that there is a best level of stress. With less than that, you may lack interest or motivation. 【小题2】 If you can reduce the stress and stay calm, you’ll have a better chance of succeeding.

Breathe out

Psychotherapist Tom suggests an effective yet simple relaxation technique: Slowly expel (排出) all the air from your lungs until there is nothing left and then count to 3 before taking the next breath normally. 【小题3】. The act of letting go of all the air lowers your shoulders and relaxes your muscles. When you are physically more relaxed, you will function better under pressure.

Keep healthy daily habits

Ensure that you are eating healthy foods. 【小题4】. Proper diet and rest may be all you need to reset your biological stress reactions to more manageable levels. In addition, regular exercise has been shown to reduce stress.

【小题5】

Regardless of how much pressure the other person is applying, or how much stress you feel, avoid reacting before you have had a chance to calmly consider what you think about the issue. Leave the room and go for a walk, make some coffee or sit alone in a quiet spot to allow yourself to decide what is the best for you.