What to Do when Someone Doesn’t Like You

When someone tells me, “I don’t care if people like me,” they are showing me the emotional wall they use to block the hurt of rejection.

As humans are social animals, all of us care if people like us. Based on the need for social connections, your reactions to rejection and negative judgment can range from minor hurt to breakouts of depression. 【小题1】

The first step to handle a negative situation is to recognize your reaction. Ask yourself, “What am I feeling?”. 【小题2】 Any betrayal (背叛) or embarrassment in your heart? Identify what feeling has shown up in your body, so you can choose what to do next.

【小题3】 When you sense yourself being shut out or feel defensive, ask yourself what the person actually means to do to you. Does he truly mean to offend you, or make fun of you? Your brain works very hard to keep you safe, so it will judge a situation threatening if there is any possibility of social harm.

When our brains sense a possible threat, we react as if we were personally attacked. Take a breath to relieve (减轻) the stress. 【小题4】

Finally, if you believe the person doesn’t like you, ask yourself if this matters. 【小题5】 If not, what can you do to release your need to be liked by this person? And, what can you do to stay neutral and not return the dislike? The more you can come to accept others as who they are, the more you can move forward with your goals regardless of whether someone likes you or not.

   In the town of Whitesburg, Kentucky, Mick Polly, who lives with his teenage daughter Carolina in a white house, is known as the bike man. Over the past five years, Mick has built hundreds of _______ for needy kids.

One day, a 13-year-old boy with a(n) _______ bike walked by Mick’s house. “When I was working in my _______, he approached me, saying he had an accident, and asked if I could _______ it, “says Mick. The boy left his bike to Mick who asked friends _______ the Internet if they had the missing _______. The town’s former police chief saw the _______ and donated two used bicycles. Mick took parts from each to _______ a new set of wheels for the boy.

Soon after, Mick, who owns a toy business, repaired a bike for the boy’s brother and assembled（组装）one for his sister. _______ spread, and within the year, he had fixed up dozens of bikes for local kids whose parents couldn’t ________ to buy new ones. “People were always dropping off bikes day and night,” says Mick.

Mick ________ these bikes and bike parts in his garage. “I ________ the good tires or the handlebars or the seat and use them, “he says. So far, the bike man has repaired hundreds of bicycles and ________ nearly 700 newly constructed bikes. They’re ________, but the kids must agree to two things: They’ve got to “remember who is ________ them”, and they’ve got to try in school. If a kid’s grades are ________, Mick willrequire a teacher’s ________ “saying that you're doing your best”.

Mick also ________ the bikes will get kids off the sofa. “When I was growing up, we all ________ our bikes, “he says. ”________ these kids can get some exercise. ”

   Mrs. Green told her pupils to draw a picture of something for which they were thankful. She thought what these little children in a worsening neighborhood had to be _____ for. Most of the _____ drew pictures of turkeys or Thanksgiving tables full of everything _____ to eat. That was what they believed was _____ from them.

What made Mrs. Green _____ was David’s picture. David was so disappointed and _____ in his own world as other students went outside for break. David’s drawing was _____ this: A hand. Whose hand? The class were strongly attracted by his _____. “I think it must be the _____ of the cook ______ our food,” said one student.

“A hand of a ______,” said another, “because he raises the turkeys.”

“It looks more like a policeman’s, and he ______ us.” “I think,” Lucy said ______, “it is ______ to be all the hands that help us, but David could only draw one of them.”

Mrs. Green had almost forgotten David in her ______ of finding the class so responsive (积极的). Having the others working on another project, she bent over his ______ and asked whose hand it was.

David whispered, “It’s yours, Mrs. Green.”

Then Mrs. Green ______ she had taken David by the hand from time to time; she often did that with the children. But what surprised her was that it should have ______ so much to David…

Perhaps, she thought this was her Thanksgiving, and everybody’s Thanksgiving — not the things ______ to people, but the ______ that others give something to people.

As the saying goes, "Friendship is like sunshine keeps us warm and helps us grow." I think it is important for us to making good friends so that we can always have a fun. I like to choose people who are kind, honesty and helpful as my friends. I like to share my thoughts and fears about them whenever I get into trouble.