How to Make Friends

Friendship is a very important human relationship and everyone needs good friends. Good friendship has many benefits. It offers companionship, improves self-worth and promotes good health. There are times in our lives such as when we have recently moved into a new town, or changed our jobs or schools. Such changes often leave us without a friend.【小题1】But for many of us the process is difficult and requires courage. Below are some helpful suggestions on how to make and keep friends.

1. Associate with others.

The first step to making friends is associating with other people. You can go to public places to meet new people. Besides, you will need to make yourself known by becoming an active member of such places.

2. Start a conversation.

Starting a conversation is the second most important step in making new friends.【小题2】 You can always start the conversation. Being able to make small talk is a very useful skill in relating with other people.

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Choosing friends with common interests is important in building friendship as these interests would always bring you and your friend together. Hanging out will always be a pleasant experience.

4. Let it grow.

It is a good thing to stay in touch. However, try not to press your new friend with calls, messages or visits as this would likely wear him or her out and finally you may lose your friend.【小题4】The best friendships are the ones that grow naturally.

5. Enjoy your friendship.

The best way to enjoy your friendship is to allow your friends to be themselves.【小题5】Try not to change them from who they are to what you want them to be. Become the kind of friend you will want your friend to be to you.

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   You can choose to think positively and see the good things around you，or you can choose to think negatively and only see the negative things around you. It's all up to you. 【小题1】 Look at what optimists do.

Believe in themselves.

While others doubt their own abilities，optimists believe they are good enough just the way they are and constantly try to get better. They trust their own intuition（直觉）and abilities when carrying out their day-to-day activities. 【小题2】 They don't need everyone's approval.

Believe in others.

Optimists not only believe in themselves，but also in other people in their lives. 【小题3】 They know that when you treat a person as he or she is，that person will remain so. But if you treat a person as he or she ought to be，that person will become what he or she ought to be. Optimists simply see sparks of good in others and work to turn the sparks into a roaring flame.

【小题4】

Optimists believe in seizing what life throws at them. They are not blind to the risks and dangers involved in taking chances，but rather look at the bigger picture，the resources available and then make every opportunity count for a much brighter future full of possibilities.

Forgive.

Optimists know better than to underestimate（低估）the power of forgiveness. Martin Luther King Jr. recognized the past was the past and forgiveness was the path to a better future for everyone. 【小题5】 Optimists know tomorrow is another day and another opportunity to correct what needs correcting and create a brighter reality.

   Friends should always be honest with you, right? So when they lie, it can  be really hard to take. You want to trust your friends and that means knowing that they'll tell it to you straight no matter what it is. But a friend who lies isn't always trying to hurt you. Why does this happen?

Protect your feelings

One of the biggest reasons friends lie is simply to avoid hurting your feelings.

Some people don't understand the difference between being gently honest with a friend and being so straightforward（直接了当的）that they leave a verbal wound. They choose to avoid these two extremes in the form of a lie.

What you can do: Encourage your friends to be straight with you. No matter what their answer is, let them know you are grateful for it.

They feel embarrassed

Sometimes friends will lie about things in their life because they are too embarrassed to admit the truth. Maybe they are going through a rough time and they just don't want you to know about it.

What you can do: Avoid trying to badger（纠缠）your friend into telling you what's wrong. Instead, make it clear that you are there for them when and if they are ready to talk.

Avoid an argument with you

Perhaps your friend knows that if they tell you the truth, you'll get angry with them. Avoiding conflict is not always healthy for a friendship because it allows problems to grow over time. If you have a bad temper（脾气）, your friend might try and avoid getting into an argument with you and instead just tell you what you want to hear.

What you can do: Make sure that if a friend tells you something unpleasant, you don't overreact. Consider what's being said and why your friend is telling you this. If you do end up arguing, do it in a respectable way.

Exclude you

Lying isn't always a sign that friends are trying to protect you, however. Sometimes they lie because they want to exclude you from their plans.

What you can do：When you find out with certainty that your friend is lying to you, try and face it. Be forewarned, however, that if a friend lies to begin with, he or she may lie when asked a direct question about his or her dishonesty. Go with your guts on this. If you feel your friend is lying because he or she doesn't want to be around you, that's your wake-up call to move on.

There are many kind of stress in our daily life. How to manage stress is so an important problem that we had to deal with it properly. I think stress itself doesn’t exist. It’s why we consider things to be bad and regard all of them as our own fault and won’t forgive us. And then stress comes out. As we all know, there is nothing you can achieve with error. So it’s impossible to expecting everything to be perfectly. If we have done our best, though not successful, but there is nothing to regret. And we don’t need blame ourselves continuously. Then we will feel the stress less. We will stay healthy and do well in the future.