—George Orwell

How was everything going？I，together with my parents plans to take a trip to Canada for a week during the summer vacation. We hope to make the full use of this opportunity to experience the naturally beauty of Canada and learn more about its culture. We don’t want to go to places where are full of tourists and shoppers. Because I am writing to ask help. We hope you can tell them where to visit. Besides, can you give us some advices on how to finding hotels which are not expensive but comfortable? I would be grateful if you could give me an early reply.

Yours,

Li Hua

   Proper pressure can be a good thing: It can push you toward accomplishing tasks. 【小题1】. But sometimes the stress can be too much. Psychologist Travis explains that there is a best level of stress. With less than that, you may lack interest or motivation. 【小题2】 If you can reduce the stress and stay calm, you’ll have a better chance of succeeding.

Breathe out

Psychotherapist Tom suggests an effective yet simple relaxation technique: Slowly expel (排出) all the air from your lungs until there is nothing left and then count to 3 before taking the next breath normally. 【小题3】. The act of letting go of all the air lowers your shoulders and relaxes your muscles. When you are physically more relaxed, you will function better under pressure.

Keep healthy daily habits

Ensure that you are eating healthy foods. 【小题4】. Proper diet and rest may be all you need to reset your biological stress reactions to more manageable levels. In addition, regular exercise has been shown to reduce stress.

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Regardless of how much pressure the other person is applying, or how much stress you feel, avoid reacting before you have had a chance to calmly consider what you think about the issue. Leave the room and go for a walk, make some coffee or sit alone in a quiet spot to allow yourself to decide what is the best for you.

What to Do when Someone Doesn’t Like You

When someone tells me, “I don’t care if people like me,” they are showing me the emotional wall they use to block the hurt of rejection.

As humans are social animals, all of us care if people like us. Based on the need for social connections, your reactions to rejection and negative judgment can range from minor hurt to breakouts of depression. 【小题1】

The first step to handle a negative situation is to recognize your reaction. Ask yourself, “What am I feeling?”. 【小题2】 Any betrayal (背叛) or embarrassment in your heart? Identify what feeling has shown up in your body, so you can choose what to do next.

【小题3】 When you sense yourself being shut out or feel defensive, ask yourself what the person actually means to do to you. Does he truly mean to offend you, or make fun of you? Your brain works very hard to keep you safe, so it will judge a situation threatening if there is any possibility of social harm.

When our brains sense a possible threat, we react as if we were personally attacked. Take a breath to relieve (减轻) the stress. 【小题4】

Finally, if you believe the person doesn’t like you, ask yourself if this matters. 【小题5】 If not, what can you do to release your need to be liked by this person? And, what can you do to stay neutral and not return the dislike? The more you can come to accept others as who they are, the more you can move forward with your goals regardless of whether someone likes you or not.

   Ways to get your laughter back Through all my school years, laughter was part of my life. My best friend and I came up with a name for the "really good" laughs. We called them Belly Rolls. That may sound silly, but it is the truth. However, after I realized I had "lost" my laughter, the first thing I thought of was how silly I was going to look and sound.【小题1】. This is how you do it.

【小题2】. It will be a forced laugh. I know it sounds silly, but trust me, if you can't laugh by yourself and be comfortable, it's even harder to laugh in a social situation when you think people are judging you.

Watch only funny programs on TV and at the movies. Be very selective about what you watch.【小题3】. If you cannot give up those programs absolutely, then watch only half an hour of them a day. Give yourself a fighting chance and make it a point to bring laughter into your life.

Invite your friends and family to make it funny! Don't wait too long before you start laughing socially. Ask someone close to you to point out the fun in life. Maybe they can promise to tell a joke to you every day or sit with you during a half-hour situation comedy.【小题4】.

While driving, go over your day and remember everything funny.【小题5】. Not only will this help you laugh more, but it will keep you feeling happy. If you are spending all your time remembering the good times you had for the day, it doesn't leave much time to think negatively！