One effective way of destroying happiness is to look at something and focus on even the smallest fault. It’s like looking at the tiled（铺瓦的）ceiling and concentrating on the space where one tile is_____ .

Once I heard a bald（秃头的）man said，“Whenever I enter a room，_____ I see is hair.”Once you’ve_____ what your missing tile is，explore whether getting it will_____ make you happy. Then do one of the three things：get it，replace it with a different_____ ，or forget about it and_____ the tiles in your life that are not missing.

We all know people who have had a relatively easy life，yet are essentially unhappy_____ people who have suffered a great deal_____  remain happy.

The first_____ is gratitude（感激）.All happy people are ______ .Ungrateful people cannot be happy. We tend to think that being unhappy leads people to______ ，but it’s truer to say that complaining leads to people becoming unhappy.

The second secret is______ that happiness is a by-product（副产品）of something else. The most obvious______ are the pursuit that gives our lives purpose-anything______ studying insects to playing baseball. The more passions we have，the more happiness we are likely to______ .

Finally，the belief that something lasting for a long time goes beyond us and that our______ has some larger meaning can help us to feel happier. We______ a spiritual faith， or a philosophy of life. Whatever your philosophy is， it should ______ this truth：If you choose to find the______ in every situation， you will be blessed；and if you choose to find the awful， you will be cursed. As with happiness itself， this is______ your decision to make.

   I was attending a party one night given in Sir Ross's honor. During the dinner, the man sitting next to me told a humorous story and spoke of the quotation:“There's a divinity（神）that shapes our ends, /Rough-hew them how we will. ”

The storyteller mentioned that the quotation was from the Bible. He was wrong. I knew that； I knew it positively. There couldn't be the slightest doubt about it. And so, to get a feeling of importance and show my high quality, I chose myself as an unwelcome person to correct him. He stuck to his guns. “What? From Shakespeare? Impossible! Absurd ! That quotation was from the Bible. ”

The storyteller was sitting at my right hand, and Frank Gammond, an old friend of mine, was seated at my left hand. Mr. Gammond had devoted years to the study of Shakespeare, so the storyteller and I agreed to leave the question to Mr. Gammond. Mr. Gammond listened, kicked me under the table, and then said ,“Dale, you are wrong. The gentleman is right. It is from the Bible. ”

On our way home that night, I said to Mr. Gammond,“Frank, you knew that quotation was from Shakespeare. ”

“Yes, of course,”he replied. “Hamlet, Act V, Scene 2. But we were guests on a festive occasion, my dear Dale. Why prove to a man he is wrong? Is that going to make him like you? Why not let him save his face? He didn't ask for your opinion. He didn't want it. Why argue with him?”The man who said that taught me a lesson I would never forget. I not only had made the storyteller uncomfortable, but had put my friend in an embarrassing situation. How much better it would have been if I hadn't become argumentative.

Nine times out of ten, an argument ends with each of the contestants（竞争者）more firmly convinced than ever that he is absolutely right. You can't win an argument. You can't because if you lose it, you lose it； and if you win it, you lose it.

As a popular saying goes, “Time is money.” But does time definitely mean money? In fact this is not the case.