Living with a roommate can be a great experience as many roommates become lifelong friends. However ,roommates living together under the same roof for a long time unavoidably have conflicts（冲突） with each other. 【小题1】To prevent this from happening to you,each conflict should be handled in a productive,healthy way.

Once conflicts occur, you need to set up a time to discuss the conflict. 【小题2】 They may think about any problems they want to discuss. It also allows for a better discussion as both roommates will most likely enter the discussion fairly calm.

Before discussing the actual conflicts, set up some rules to guide the discussion. For example, each roommate is allowed to bring up one problem at a time and the other roommate has a chance to respond to it before another one is brought up. Making rules beforehand can prevent a screaming match from breaking out. 【小题3】

You can use your discussion to point out to your roommates their great advantages and specific things you like about them. While this won't solve the conflict, it can help your roommates be more understanding of your point of view and more willing to compromise（妥协）.

Once dissatisfaction has been said by both parties you should develop a roommate agreement that is written down. This agreement should discuss what the rules are as well as what results exist for breaking them. For example,roommates having a conflict about overnight guests may compromise to allow overnight guests only on weekends or guests on weekdays leaving by 11 p. m. 【小题5】 .

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Yours,

Li Ming

   Getting to know other people is a typical activity in our daily lives. Even if you're good with people，there are likely times when you're stuck for something more to say and start wondering what topic to bring up next. 【小题1】

Talk about the other person.

The biggest secret to being a good conversationalist is simply allowing the other people to talk about themselves. Why? 【小题2】

Ask about work.

This one can be a little tricky because the conversation could end up sounding like a job interview. Still, if you can handle it carefully and keep it short and sweet, it can lead to an interesting discussion.

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This is where it starts to get more personal. It’s up to you to carry on the conversation using these questions in a proper way. Do you play or follow any sports? What do you like to read? What kind of music do you like?

Ask about their travels.

Ask the person where they’ve been. Even if they have never left their hometown, they will likely be happy to talk about where they want to go. If you had a chance to move to any other country, which one would it be and why? 【小题4】 How did you like it?

Know what to avoid.

You know the old rule: never talk about religion, politics, money, family problems, or women’s age with people you don’t know well. 【小题5】 So you should stay extremely clear.

   Ways to get your laughter back Through all my school years, laughter was part of my life. My best friend and I came up with a name for the "really good" laughs. We called them Belly Rolls. That may sound silly, but it is the truth. However, after I realized I had "lost" my laughter, the first thing I thought of was how silly I was going to look and sound.【小题1】. This is how you do it.

【小题2】. It will be a forced laugh. I know it sounds silly, but trust me, if you can't laugh by yourself and be comfortable, it's even harder to laugh in a social situation when you think people are judging you.

Watch only funny programs on TV and at the movies. Be very selective about what you watch.【小题3】. If you cannot give up those programs absolutely, then watch only half an hour of them a day. Give yourself a fighting chance and make it a point to bring laughter into your life.

Invite your friends and family to make it funny! Don't wait too long before you start laughing socially. Ask someone close to you to point out the fun in life. Maybe they can promise to tell a joke to you every day or sit with you during a half-hour situation comedy.【小题4】.

While driving, go over your day and remember everything funny.【小题5】. Not only will this help you laugh more, but it will keep you feeling happy. If you are spending all your time remembering the good times you had for the day, it doesn't leave much time to think negatively！

   It seems that there is never enough time in the day. But, since we all get the same 24 hours, why is it that some people achieve much more than others? 【小题1】

Keep 0a to-do list.

You should have a reminder system to tell you when you need to do what. 【小题2】 Carry a pen and paper wherever you go and write down the things you need to do, including dates and deadlines (最后期限).

Set goals.

Set yourself exact goals, and make sure that they are realistic. To do this, you first need to examine your present situation and assess (判断) which goals are important to you. Have a secondary route to your goals in case you have to change your plans.

Break down tasks.

Break goals down into different parts so that you can complete them one step at a time. 【小题3】 Try to complete one task before you go on to the next.

Organize your time.

【小题4】 A good way to do this is to record everything you do for a week in detail and then examine your record to see how you use or waste your time.

【小题5】

Keep your work space tidy so that you can work efficiently — it’s hard to work if things you need to find are buried under a pile of paper! Work to plan things so that you can meet deadlines in good time — don’t leave everything until the last minute.