Everyone wants to be truly happy.【小题1】For example，we should be true to ourselves，we should think positively，we should always smile，we should learn to be thankful and so on. To be a truly happy person，not only must we know what we should do，but also we have to keep these don’ts in mind.

Never rest on the past.

Your past is just a story. Everyone has a past often full of pain，disappointment，missed opportunities，and unfulfilled（未实现的）expectations.【小题2】If you rest on the past all the time，those unhappy things will always bother you and you won’t be happy forever.

【小题3】

Be grateful for what you have got. You could waste hours counting the things you would like to improve，which would only take you away from appreciating your real life.

Never stop improving yourself.

We are all different，and there is no perfect direction or path to our personal development. The whole point is to become the best version of you，and never stop taking lessons from your own life experiences.【小题4】

Never lose a sense of purpose in what you are doing.

Your time and power are limited，so spend them wisely and use your energy on something meaningful.【小题5】A life without a purpose i» a life without the sun. If you lose a sense of purpose，you will never be truly happy.

Growing pains and gains

It's not easy to grow up. Actually it's far from easy. Growing up can be a real "pain" for some of us. We are always doing things that someone else makes us do and aren't allowed to do all the things we like. Sometimes we feel trapped, sometimes we are fearful, and sometimes we just don't understand why we can't stay young forever. When we look back on all the hardships in life with a positive attitude（态度）, we realize that all of our growing pains actually turn into growing gains！

As a young girl my parents forced my sisters and me to do so many things that I never liked. They made me learn to play the violin and then the piano. At that time I hated music, just because it was what they wanted me to do. But looking back now, I am so glad that my parents encouraged me to take music lessons. Music has enriched my life in so many ways. I realize that my parents and teachers were always pushing me along, not because they wanted me to suffer but because they wanted me to succeed in life. They've always wanted me to have a better life than they did themselves.

Every moment of our lives we are either living or dying, so live life to its fullest！We are all going to experience growing pains, but they are just small pains in life. They might seem so huge at the time but we must be strong. Think about how we would feel if we had no fear and live life like that. The future is ours！

A little hard work and sweat never hurt anyone！If we realize that these pains are just small bumps（凸块）on our road to success we will realize that our growing pains are actually growing gains！

The Italian dinners we had every Sunday when I was a boy were feasts fit for a king. There 【小题1】（be）loaves of Italian bread ready to be eaten. They were great with butter and even 【小题2】（good）when you dipped them in the sauce（调味汁）. My grandma，【小题3】 we called“Nanny”，would always bake them a day ahead so they would be ready. I remember watching her hands make the dough（面团）. I would often ask to help only because I wanted to have 【小题4】 bite of the dough before she placed it in the pan to bake.

One day I 【小题5】（foolish）asked Nanny why she didn't just buy bread at the store 【小题6】（save）time. “Because it is not as good，”she said in 【小题7】（she）thick Italian accent. Then she laughed，smiled，and gave me a piece of bread to eat.

Nanny was right. Today I buy my bread at the store and it isn't as good. It is factory-made and lacks all the taste，【小题8】（warm），and love that Nanny put into hers. Store-bought happiness is a sad substitute for homemade joy. If you want lasting love，permanent peace，and 【小题9】（end）joy，then you will have to bake them 【小题10】your own.

   I've come to the conclusion that I'm terrible at saying "No". For example，last Sunday I was sitting at my desk alone，totally ________ in my own business，when a colleague of mine phoned and asked me to get involved in ________ with her. I found myself getting all caught up in her enthusiasm and didn't want to ________ her. So I said "Sure，why not？" even before the talk ________

I found myself agreeing，without giving any ________ whether it was worth doing. We are both window-shoppers who go to shops but buy nothing and ________ a whole day in the street. Actually，I hardly have any time to spare because I am very busy ________  my normal job-I've also got a book to write，a business to ________ and a family to look after. And then there are my other projects to ________—my voluntary work and a couple of other interesting investments that I want to _________.I'm going to have to be more ruthless（残酷无情的）and not just agree to _________  people ask me to get involved in. In other words，I'm going to have to get _________ at saying "No". Usually I hate saying "No"，because having to disappoint someone usually _________ me. Now I realize _________  I haven't learned to say "No"，I've been feeling very _________.

We had better do what we think is right and what we are _________ to do. Sometimes it does not seem that bad to _________ others. In my case, if I _________ want to be involved in it, I' ll pay more _________ to it and do it quite well I' ll be enthusiastic and motivated and do something that is good for everyone and everyone will be happy. It' ll be a win-win _________. What's not good about that? So sometimes, we have to say "No".