Bobby was six years old, and he went to school. There were nineteen other little boys and girls in his class. They often went to parties together.

    When one of the children had a birthday, he or she invited all the other children to come to a party. And at Christmas all the mothers had parties for all the children.

    Bobby like parties very much .He liked the games they played there ---but he liked the nice food more .His favorite food was cakes.

    Before a party, Bobby's mother always asked him not to eat too many cakes, and Bobby always answered ,”I won't ,Mom .”But he always ate a lot and sometimes he got ill .Christmas came again, and again there were a lot of parties. Bobby went to all of them. The last one was on January 6^th.

    One evening before this party, Bobby's mother called the lady who had the party, Bobby always eats too many cakes at parties. Don't worry, answered the lady “At the party, a child can only have three cakes ---and the cakes are small”

    “Oh, good!” Bobby's mother answered happily. On January 6^th, she took Bobby to the party. When it was time to eat ,Bobby took four cakes and began to eat them .”You can only have three cakes ,Bobby！＂said the lady .She asked the boy to put the fourth one back on the plate.

    “I can't,” answered Bobby .I ate that one first”

根据短文 ，回答问题。

日本有“心灵紧闭”但“眼观八方”的特征，在国弱时，他们悲谦地对外点头哈腰，默默拿来先进才智，然后悄悄在作坊里加班加点地消化，乃至超越，一旦确信自己超越了别国，便会出其不意地“创造神话”。 请回答：（1）现在中日两国关于钓鱼岛之争严重影响两国关系。日本“国弱”时，曾从先进的中国拿来“先进才智”，结合所学历史知识，这是什么事件？举出它在经济上的措施？
（2）日本在古代出其不意地“创造神话”， 对当时的日本产生什么样的影响？
（3）他山之石，可以攻玉。我们从中可以学到什么精神？得到什么启示？

有个人请客，看看时间过了，还有一大半的客人没来，主人心里很着急，便说：“怎么搞的，该来的客人还不来就？”一些敏感的客人听到了，心想：“该来的没来，那我们是不该来的咯？”于是悄悄的走了。主人一看又走掉了好几位客人，便说：“怎么这些不该走的客人，反倒走了呢？”剩下的客人一听，又想：“走了的是不该走的，那我们这些没走的倒是该走的。”于是又走了一批。

最后只剩下一个跟主人亲近的朋友，看了这种尴尬的场面，就劝他说：“你说话前应该先考虑一下，否则说错了，就不容易收回来了。”主人大叫冤枉，急忙解释说：“我并不是叫他们走哇。”朋友大为恼火，说：“不是叫他们走，那就是叫我走了。”说完，头也不回的离开了。

这个故事给了我们什么启示？